Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Christmas = depression
Baby steps
Was working out this afternoon and realized something I really need to learn to do is take baby steps. Most everything I have done in life has come easily and I have been known to skip steps in life. Well lately things haven't come so easily and with that I am needing to learn to be patient. Today I weighed before my workout on lunch and got pissed because I hadn't lost any weight since I weighed in last Monday. I was mad because if I hadn't of drank both nights this past weekend I wouldnt be in this situation. I was mad because the scale is not my friend. Then I started thinking it took me how long to put this weight on. Its not going to come off all over night. I have done good with what I have lost this year and I have a lot more to go. So instead of worry what the evil devil scale says im going to focus on what my clothes tell me. I may not have lost weight but I have moved weight around. One of these days I will get on the scale and a big number is going to fall off. I just have to try and stay positive. The baby steps theme can be applied to other parts of my life. I am notorious for jumping from dating to serious relationship over night. I am going to focus on baby steps there too. I truly think that is why most of my past relationships have failed is they moved to fast. So from now on Im going to slow down. So my goal for the rest of life is to learn to be patient!
Have you ever watched kids on a merry-go-round,
or listened to rain slapping the ground?
Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight,
or gazed at the sun fading into the night?
You better slow down, don't dance so fast,
time is short, the music won't last.
Do you run through each day on the fly,
when you ask "How are you?", do you hear the reply?
When the day is done, do you lie in your bed,
with the next hundred chores running through your head?
You better slow down, don't dance so fast,
time is short, the music won't last.
Ever told your child, we'll do it tomorrow,
and in your haste, not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch, let a friendship die,
'cause you never had time to call and say hi?
You better slow down, don't dance so fast,
time is short, the music won't last.
When you run so fast to get somewhere,
you miss half the fun of getting there.
When you worry and hurry through your day,
it's like an unopened gift thrown away.
Life isn't a race, so take it slower,
hear the music before your song is over
6 year old baseball
As most of you know I umpire small college baseball and enjoy it. Well last night I got demoted (not really) we had an umpire not show up for work at the organization I work for and I got the privilage to umpire a 6 year old machine pitch game. I was the UIC and didnt have anyone else to work so I went out there to get it started until we got a younger umpire there. It was the most fun I have had umpiring a game in years. These kids were having fun. They didnt care if they struck out or made in error in the field. They were excited to just hit the ball and slide into home plate. I am not sure if they knew who won or lost and that is a great thing. They are playing baseball for the love of the game. The parents were well behaved (that changes as they get just a few years older typically). It actually was a very competitive gave the score ended up 10-9. The game had a triple play turned and it ended with the 1st baseman making a diving stop on a ball that was hit hard most 6 year olds wont make that play he did and got the finaly out and saved the game for his team.
Working that game made me realize how lucky I truly am. I get the honor of getting paid to officiate a kids game. I was lucky enough to get to play a kids game into college and now I still get to be around it. I think I want to still be a kid at times. I want the only worry I have is if we are getting fruit punch or grape juice boxes after the game. I dont want to care about winning and losing anymore and just have fun. I want to be able to make a mistake and just go on like nothing ever happened. Though I cant do these things I think I will try and live my life like I am playing 6 year old baseball and not let a little mistake get me down any longer.
5 reasons why it is great to be an umpire
4. Chicks dig guys with farmers (umpire) tans
3. What else can you do where you can walk around and say I have 2 balls
2. You can yell as loud as you want at work and no one cares its your job.
1. You get paid to watch a baseball game.
So this afternoon when I was umpiring I realized that I enjoy it again. Last year at this time I hated umpiring and wanted nothing to do with it. I tried to not umpire this year because I was burnt out. Well I was talked into doing it again and I am glad I was. I love being around the game. Maybe it is because I was working 14 year old baseball and it was pure again. The kids were playing because they enjoy the game and like I did when I was that kid love the game. Today I worked four games and I made some decent money but I would have done it for free. I am glad I have something that can take me back to being a kid even if it is just for few hours.
This is Good
One day the king and his friend were out on a hunting expedition. The friend would load and prepare the guns for the king. The friend had apparently done something wrong in preparing one of the guns, for after taking the gun from his friend, the king fired it and his thumb was blown off. Examining the situation the friend remarked as usual, "This is good!" To which the king replied, "No, this is NOT good!" and proceeded to send his friend to jail.
About a year later, the king was hunting in an area that he should have known to stay clear of. Cannibals captured him and took him to their village. They tied his hands, stacked some wood, set up a stake and bound him to the stake.
As they came near to set fire to the wood, they noticed that the king was missing a thumb. Being superstitious, they never ate anyone that was less than whole. So untying the king, they sent him on his way. As he returned home, he was reminded of the event that had taken his thumb and felt remorse for his treatment of his friend. He went immediately to the jail to speak with his friend. "You were right," he said, "it was good that my thumb was blown off." And he proceeded to tell the friend all that had just happened. "And so I am very sorry for sending you to jail for so long. It was bad for me to do this."
"No," his friend replied, "This is good!"
"What do you mean,’This is good’? How could it be good that I sent my friend to jail for a year?"
"If I had NOT been in jail, I would have been with you." "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose." (Rom. 8:28)
Situations may not always seem pleasant while we are in them, but the promise of God is clear. If we love Him and live our lives according to His precepts, even that which seems to be bleak and hopeless will be turned by God for His glory and our benefit.
Hold on, God is faithful! May God bless you this week as you seek His will in every situation.
Addendum -- Genius 50:20 (NIV) "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives."
Reason, Season or Lifetime
By: Brian A. "Drew" Chalker
People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason,you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilleed; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.
LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life.....
I saw this on a friend of mines page and stole it thanks Cara. I think it is kind of fitting to my world right now. I will be the first to admit I have the most amazing friends some of you are life long friends and I have known since I was a child, others are friends I made in college and dont think I would be the same person without you. Then there are my newest friends who have come along with I had given up on things only to show me a new side to life. I love each and everyone of you and I am glad you are a part of my life it wouldnt be the same without you. Some of you may leave like this says and if that is the case I will be sad but I will carry on the lessons I have learned from you. I hope each and every one of you is a lifetime friend but I will understand if you are here for a reason or just a season because my life has become better knowing you.
Bucket and Dipper
I came across this and just thought it was a great way to look at life. I hope everyone reads this and takes as much from it as I did. I know this is a little deep for me but hey I have my moments.
Each of us has an invisible bucket. It is constantly emptied or filled, depending on what others say or do to us. When our bucket is full, we feel great. When it's empty, we feel awful.
Each of us also has an invisible dipper. When we use that dipper to fill other people's buckets -- by saying or doing things to increase their positive emotions -- we also fill our own bucket. But when we use that dipper to dip from others' buckets -- by saying or doing things that decrease their positive emotions -- we diminish ourselves.
Like the cup that runneth over, a full bucket gives us a positive outlook and renewed energy. Every drop in that bucket makes us stronger and more optimistic.
But an empty bucket poisons our outlook, saps our energy, and undermines our will. That's why every time someone dips from our bucket, it hurts us.
So we face a choice every moment of every day: We can fill one another's buckets, or we can dip from them. It's an important choice -- one that profoundly influences our relationships, productivity, health, and happiness.
The best way to predict your future is to create it.
I thought I would share some quotes and sayings that give me inspiration to try new things and motivate myself when I am feel down.
When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.
Helen Keller
Men do less than they ought, unless they do all they can.
Thomas Carlyle
"Always do what you are afraid to do."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt
Try not to become a man of success but a man of value.
Albert Einstein
Life's a voyage that's homeward bound.
Herman Melville
Imagination is more important than knowledge.
Albert Einstein
You are never a loser until you quit trying.
Mike Ditka
Here is a test to find out whether your mission in life is complete. If you're alive, it isn't.
There is no such thing in anyone's life
as an unimportant day.
Meditate.
Live purely. Be quiet.
Do your work with mastery.
Like the moon, come out
from behind the clouds!
Shine.
Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.
The journey of a thousand miles
must begin with a single step.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
There'll be two dates on your tombstone
And all your friends will read 'em
But all that's gonna matter
is that little dash between 'em.
You must do the thing you think you cannot do.
Dream as if you'll live forever...
live as if you'll die today.
The best way to predict your future is to create it.
I thought I would share some quotes and sayings that give me inspiration to try new things and motivate myself when I am feel down.
When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.
Helen Keller
Men do less than they ought, unless they do all they can.
Thomas Carlyle
"Always do what you are afraid to do."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt
Try not to become a man of success but a man of value.
Albert Einstein
Life's a voyage that's homeward bound.
Herman Melville
Imagination is more important than knowledge.
Albert Einstein
You are never a loser until you quit trying.
Mike Ditka
Here is a test to find out whether your mission in life is complete. If you're alive, it isn't.
There is no such thing in anyone's life
as an unimportant day.
Meditate.
Live purely. Be quiet.
Do your work with mastery.
Like the moon, come out
from behind the clouds!
Shine.
Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.
The journey of a thousand miles
must begin with a single step.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
There'll be two dates on your tombstone
And all your friends will read 'em
But all that's gonna matter
is that little dash between 'em.
You must do the thing you think you cannot do.
Dream as if you'll live forever...
live as if you'll die today.
The best way to predict your future is to create it.
I thought I would share some quotes and sayings that give me inspiration to try new things and motivate myself when I am feel down.
When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.
Helen Keller
Men do less than they ought, unless they do all they can.
Thomas Carlyle
"Always do what you are afraid to do."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt
Try not to become a man of success but a man of value.
Albert Einstein
Life's a voyage that's homeward bound.
Herman Melville
Imagination is more important than knowledge.
Albert Einstein
You are never a loser until you quit trying.
Mike Ditka
Here is a test to find out whether your mission in life is complete. If you're alive, it isn't.
There is no such thing in anyone's life
as an unimportant day.
Meditate.
Live purely. Be quiet.
Do your work with mastery.
Like the moon, come out
from behind the clouds!
Shine.
Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.
The journey of a thousand miles
must begin with a single step.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
There'll be two dates on your tombstone
And all your friends will read 'em
But all that's gonna matter
is that little dash between 'em.
You must do the thing you think you cannot do.
Dream as if you'll live forever...
live as if you'll die today.
50 Things to do before I die
2. Boat trip down the Nile
3. African Safari
4. Have picture taken in front of Angel Falls, in Venzuela
5. See a game in every major league park
6. Drive across country
7. Visit every State
8. Camp in the outback
9. scuba dive
10. skydive
11. have something I have written published
12. get at least a masters degree
13. sit in on a session of congress
14. see a live taping of a television show
15. bring in the new year in time square
16. umpire a D-1 baseball game
17. get my pilots licenses
18. deep sea fish
19. swim in every ocean
20. run with the bulls
21. attend the indy 500
22. attend the Kentucky Derby
23 meet a president
24. run in a political election
25. run in a marathon
26. see the ancient ruins in Greece
27. go to Paris
28. take a cooking class
29. go to Mardi gras
30. attend a civil war reinactment at Gettysburg
31. go on a cruise
32. coach a little league team
33. teach a class
34. brew my own beer
35. live in a house no one has lived in
36. learn to sail
37. climb a mountain.
38. learn a different language
39. own my own business
40. see an endangered animal in the wild
41. rebuild a classic car
42. build a motorcycle with my dad
43. learn more about my heritage and where I came from
44. see the leaves change in the northeast
45. have breakfast on one coast and dinner on the other
46. attend the NCAA championship football game
47. go to OU/Texas, Michigan/Ohio State and Miami/Florida State football games.
48. Attend both college and major league baseball World Series
49. read what is considered the 100 greatest American Novels
50. find true love (get married and have a family)
There are a few things I would have put on the list but I have done them
1. graduate from college
2 umpire games in NBC World Series
3. played college sports
4. performed at a national level in a sport
5. coached a college team
I am sure there are many other things but this is just a list of things I have always wanted to do.
My top 10
1. always listen to your family if they dont like someone you are dating there is a good reason.
2. Its not what you know its who you know. I am a fairly intelligent person I have a college degree and all of that but in both of my jobs I didnt move up because of my educational background it was because of who I knew or I met. I am not saying I kissed ass but I earned the respect of the right people and the little piece of paper I have isnt doing anything for me.
3. only say I love you when you mean it. That phrases is completely over used. I can honestly say I have only told 5 girls that in my life I am proud of that I dont use to just use or to just get laid. I however do have friends that throw it around like it is nothing and it makes the rest of us look bad.
4. remember who your friends are dont give up your friends because you are dating someone and they dont like them. If they dont get along with your friends then there is probably something wrong with them and they need to go away.
5. this one comes from my job dont take things personal. People sometimes take out other things on the person nearest them and it might be you. I have learned to just smile take a deep breath and be as nice as possible to them.
6. It is ok to be a kid no matter how old you are. If you enjoy life, play, laugh and smile you will live longer.
7. do what you love. I know we all have to work to pay the bills but if you hate your job it is not fair to the people around you. Find something you like to do if you love your job you will want to go and be more successful. (I umpire baseball because I love being on a baseball field not for the money I would work games for free if ask just to be around the game. I do what I love)
8. dont change for someone and dont try to change people. I have been on both ends of this if you are dating someone dont try to change or mold them into someone they are not love them for who they are and what flaws they have. If you try to change that person they wont be happy and if you change for someone you wont like yourself in the long run.
9. forgive! Everyone has had someone do something bad to them. Forgive them dont hold a grudge carrying that with you will only make you a negative person and shorten your life. I realize somethings seem unforgiveable but it is not our place to judge others that will be taken care of, just forgive and move on.
10. Smile - this is something that I have just recently realized and that I have changed. When I was younger I had a friend who called me smiley because I was always smiling well with some of my life experiences I have become negative and cold and dont smile much at all...(look at my pics) well I realize this isnt healthy and I am working on doing #9 forgiving which will allow me to smile more.